Via Gawker. This man knows what he's talking about: Fabian Basabe, "international it-boy" has no redeeming qualities whatsoever. In fact, he has no distinguishing qualities whatsoever: he's the one in the lineup that nobody ever picks. You've seen him a million times and can't remember what he looks like or, if you can, you wouldn't recognize him without makeup.

He's now helping the self-esteem-deficient overcome their handicap by sharing the secrets of his unique ability to transcend self-doubt in the face of a complete lack of accomplishment, talent, or looks. Here are his secrets:

A how-to guide for building confidence
Fabian Basabe, international “it boy''

Q: I loved you on Filthy Rich: Celebrity Cattle Drive when you ordered that pizza in the middle of the wilderness. I'd love to have chutzpah like that. What are your tips for being super-confident?

FB: First off, I must differentiate confidence and over-confidence, the first a sign of self-respect and a tool to achieving your goals, while the latter a sign of insecurity that will stand between you and getting what you want. In general, it takes more confidence to be humble and ask for help than to panic and demand attention.

Fabian's tips on being confident

1. The more you think like a confident person, the more likely you are to get what you want.

2. Know what you want. Are you sure of what it is you want? If you want something badly enough, there is no reason you should not have it.

3. Be passionate.

4. Be a rebel. Do not be afraid to be your own person. People like a leader.

5. Be an independent thinker. A true sign of confidence is belief in yourself.

6. Do not be a power-tripper. This is a sign of insecurity. If things go your way, be grateful.

7. Do not be a phony. Be yourself. People of strong character make a strong impression.

8. Don't budge. A truly confident person will stay the course.

9. Do not waste time hiding your vulnerabilities. Everyone has his moments; use them to relate to others.

10. Be as charming as possible while withholding. People like a bit of mystery.

11. Flirt, flirt, flirt and then flirt some more.

12. Flatter, charm, demand, push, threaten (in this order). You should get what you want.

13. I keep asking over and over again until whoever is responsible breaks down and gives me what I want, and if that fails, a thick stack of twenties should do the trick.

14. If all else fails, just get naked.