Well naturally a love theory called the Flaw-O-Matic would originate from New York. Ronald Perelman gets all the hotties he can handle…there’s obviously some complicated yet brutal math going on behind the false eyelashes and toupees.
They found that a 5-foot-8 man was just as successful in getting dates as a 6-footer if he made more money — precisely $146,000 a year more. For a 5-foot-2 man, the number was $277,000…
Customers of online dating services typically end up going out with fewer than 1 percent of the people whose profiles they study online. But something very different happens at a speed-dating event. The average participant makes a match with at least 1 in 10 of the people they meet; some studies have found the average is 2 or 3 out of 10. Women are still pickier than men, and in some speed-dating experiments they still prefer affluent, well-educated men, but the preference is less strong — and in some other studies they don’t discriminate at all by income or social status.
What happens to speed daters’ Flaw-O-Matics? The people at these events realize that there aren’t an infinite number of possibilities. If they want to get anything out of the evening, they have to settle for less than perfection. They also can’t help noticing that they have competition, and that their ideal partner just might prefer someone else.
Well imagine that! Almost like in real life (oops, sorry, TMI, do not adjust your blogs, I’ll just go back to listening to Nine Inch Nails, nothing to see here).
Also, here’s a related Mister Science podcast on the Science of Speed Dating, including whether or not to choose a porn name for your tag or play it straight, so to speak.
So, distilled, the deal is that speed dating is far more likely to result in a date or three than Internet dating, even if you’re short or poor. The article doesn’t talk about the women much because, I suppose, that would be contentious what with the “there are no ugly women, only lazy ones” quotations and The Swan and the ever-popular Sex and the City myth that with fabulous hair and a good stylist even Secretariat could pull a man.
The true secret is towards the end of the article; it turns out being generally genial is probably the key to my problem in this department. Seems people don’t want to date people who are friendly to everyone; they want to feel that you’re being nice to them as an exception to your normal routine, which presumably includes blasting members of the opposite sex with the deadly laser beams from your eyes, cracking them across the face with your taloned hand and kneeing them in the groin by way of hello. Okay, so back to standard greeting procedures for me then.
The New York dating scene; it’s a jungle out there! Or at least downtown Tokyo, circa 1954.
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lauriekendrick.wordpress.comEdited by raincoaster to add: if you’re venal enough to spam but not competent enough to format a link correctly, allow me to inform you that you are doomed on the Internet.
Spam go byebye.
Great take down, rain. ;)
Thankies. Seriously, how long do you think that one will last?
Also, is this the place to note that a friend told me she fudges her income down because when she reports what she ACTUALLY makes, nobody ever wants to see her again. I think at last check she was reporting $17 thou a year, which is just about 95 thousand less than she actually makes.
Is she busy?–I’m in town tonight.
It has been reported that sexually insecure guys often have difficulty with women who make more than they do. I feel that’s both limiting (I mean, depending on what you do the available date pool could be cut to zip) and silly.
Of course the way to get around that would be some sort of mass conspiracy to pay women only 80% of what a men make on average. I wonder if some of those tremendously insecure political types would have any interest in something like this?
64%, Metro.
So it is true after all: Nice guys finish last.
The thing is, online dating (from a guys perspective) is pretty much hopeless anyways, in real life we don’t really chose, but online we don’t even ask, we “beg”. Seriously.
Speed Dating…. Well, if someone isn’t a total klutz I guess that can work, but this “60 seconds and you’re gone” can be pretty stressful too.
As far as women and income concern. I don’t care if she makes three times as much as I do. I do what I do because I like to do it and it does pay the bills. If she is more “fortunate” than good for her.
Oh yeah, give her my email :P
Where did it say nice boys finish last? It only said poor, genial, short boys finish last.
You can find her on lavalife. Actually, I know several married couples who met on lavalife. Happy fishing! But your odds are still better at speed dating. Once I’m up to speed, that’s what I’ll be trying.
Yeah, tried that LL thing, no luck so far, chemistry lacking or some such or I am just not “Internet” enough for it.
Oh well.
Maybe I just need a huge butterfly net and go hunting on the seawall :P
I favour a dart gun myself. It’s much more amusing to watch them nod off and tumble off their rollerblades.
Besides, have you ever tried to catch a roller-blading beauty with a butterfly net? Hard work!
Try a volleyball net next time you’re looking for company on the Seawall. Works for me. Good thing I like cops, though.
You enjoy being trapped by cops with a volleyball net?
How’s that work, exactly? And how do you ensure they’re really cops?
Silly, you trap the cyclists, then the cops come. Do you fish with a bare hook where you come from???